Harman to scallon

Too bad he can’t practice what he preaches and can’t stop masturbating to his
Black Tail collection.

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> REGAINING SELF-CONTROL – STEPS IN OVERCOMING MASTURBATION
>
> Be assured that you can be cured of your difficulty. Many have
> been, both male and female, and you can be also if you determine
> that it must be so.
>
> This determination is the first step. That is where we begin.
> You must decide that you will end this practice, and when you
> make that decision, the problem will be greatly reduced at once.
>
> But it must be more than a hope or a wish, more than knowing
> that it is good for you. It must be actually a DECISION. If
> you truly make up your mind that you will be cured, then you
> will have the strength to resist any tendencies which you may
> have and any temptations which may come to you.
>
> After you have made this decision, then observe the following
> specific guidelines:
>
> 1. Never touch the intimate parts of your body except
> during normal toilet processes.
>
> 2. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company
> and stay in this good company.
>
> 3. If you are associated with other persons having this
> same problem, YOU MUST BREAK OFF THEIR FRIENDSHIP. Never
> associate with other people having the same weakness.
> Don’t suppose that two of you will quit together, you
> never will. You must get away from people of that kind.
> Just to be in their presence will keep your problem
> foremost in your mind. The problem must be taken OUT OF
> YOUR MIND for that is where it really exists. Your mind
> must be on other and more wholesome things.
>
> 4. When you bathe, do not admire yourself in a mirror. Never
> stay in the bath more than five or six minutes — just
> long enough to bathe and dry and dress AND THEN GET OUT OF
> THE BATHROOM into a room where you will have some member
> of your family present.
>
> 5. When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for
> the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely
> that you cannot easily touch your vital parts, and so
> that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to
> remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove
> protective clothing you would have sufficiently controlled
> your thinking that the temptation would leave you.
>
> 6. If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed,
> GET OUT OF BED AND GO INTO THE KITCHEN AND FIX YOURSELF
> A SNACK, even if it is in the middle of the night, and
> even if you are not hungry, and despite your fears of
> gaining weight. The purpose behind this suggestion is
> that you GET YOUR MIND ON SOMETHING ELSE. You are the
> subject of your thoughts, so to speak.
>
> 7. Never read pornographic material. Never read about your
> problem. Keep it out of mind. Remember — “First a
> thought, then an act.” The thought pattern must be
> changed. You must not allow this problem to remain in
> your mind. When you accomplish that, you soon will be
> free of the act.
>
> 8. Put wholesome thoughts into your mind at all times. Read
> good books — Church books — Scriptures — Sermons of
> the Brethern. Make a daily habit of reading at least one
> chapter of Scripture, preferably from one of the four
> Gospels in the New Testament, or the Book of Mormon.
> The four Gospels — Matthew, Mark, Luke and John —
> above anything else in the Bible can be helpful because
> of their uplifting qualities.
>
> 9. Pray. But when you pray, don’t pray about this problem,
> for that will tend to keep it in your mind more than ever.
> Pray for faith, pray for understanding of the Scriptures,
> pray for the Missionaries, the General Authorities, your
> friends, your families, BUT KEEP THE PROBLEM OUT OF YOUR
> MIND BY NOT MENTIONING IT EVER — NOT IN CONVERSATION WITH
> OTHERS, NOT IN YOUR PRAYERS. KEEP IT _OUT_ of your mind!
>
> The attitude of a person toward his problem has an affect on how
> easy it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment
> be made to control the habit. As a person understands his
> reasons for the behavior, and is sensitive to the conditions or
> situations that may trigger a desire for the act, he develops
> the power to control it.
>
> We are taught that our bodies are temples of God, and are
> to be clean so that the Holy Ghost may dwell within us.
> Masturbation is a sinful habit that robs one of the Spirit
> and creates guilt and emotional stress. It is a habit that is
> totally self-centered, and secretive, and in no way expresses
> the proper use of the procreative power given to man to fulfill
> eternal purposes. It therefore separates a person from God
> and defeats the gospel plan.
>
> This self-gratifying activity will cause one to lose his
> self-respect testimony becomes weak, and missionary work and
> other Church callings become burdensome offerings.
>
> To help in planning an effective program to overcome the
> problem a brief discription is given of how the reproductive
> organs in a young man function.
>
> The testes in your body are continually producing hundreds of
> millions of reproductive cells call spermatozoa. These are
> moved up a tube called the vas deferens to a place called the
> ampulla where they are mixed with fluids from two membranous
> pouches called seminal vesicles and the prostate gland.
> The resultant fluid when the seminal vesicles are full a signal
> is sent to the central nervous system indicating they are ready
> to be released, how often depending on such things as exercise,
> state of health, etc., occasionally or several times a week,
> for others.
>
> It is normal for the vesicles to be emptied occasionally at
> night during sleep when called by the central nervous system.
> Often an erotic dream is experienced at the same time, and
> is a part of this normal process. If, instead masturbating,
> the reproductive system is operating at a more rapid pace,
> trying to keep up with the loss of semen. When he stops the
> habit, the body will continue to produce at his increased rate,
> for an indefese are not harmful and are to be endured until
> the normal central nervous system pathway of release.
>
> As one meets with his Priesthood Leader, a program for
> overcoming masturbation can be implemented using some of the
> techniques mentioned above. Remember it is essential that
> a regular report program be agreed on, so progress can be
> recognized and failures understood and eliminated.
>
> Suggestions:
>
> 1. Pray daily, ask for the gifts of the Spirit, that which
> will strengthen you against temptation. Pray fervently
> and not out loud when the temptations are the strongest.
>
> 2. Follow a program of vigorous daily exercise. The exercises
> reduce emotional tension and depression and are absolutely
> basic to the solution of this problem. Double your
> physical activity when you feel stress increasing.
>
> 3. When the temptation to masturbate is strong, yell _STOP_
> to those thoughts as loudly as you can in your mind and
> then recite a prechosen Scripture or sing an inspirational
> hymn. It is important to turn your thoughts away from
> the selfish need to indulge.
>
> 4. Set goals of abstinence, begin with a day, then a week,
> month, year and finally commit to never doing it again.
> Until you commit yourself to _never again_ you will always
> be open to temptation.
>
> 5. Change in behavior and attitude is most easily achieved
> through a changed self-image. Spend time every day
> imagining yourself strong and in control, easily overcoming
> tempting situations.
>
> 6. Begin to work daily on a self-improvement program. Relate
> this plan to improving your Church service, to improving
> your relationships with your family, God and others.
> Strive to enhance your strengths and talents.
>
> 7. Be outgoing and friendly. Force yourself to be with others
> and learn to enjoy working and talking to them. Use
> principles of developing friendships found in books such as
> _How to Win Friends and Influence People_ by Dale Carnegie.
>
> 8. Be aware of situations that depress you or that cause
> you to feel lonely, bored, frustrated or discouraged.
> These emotional states can trigger the desire to masturbate
> as a way of escape. Plan in advance to counter these
> low periods through various activities, such as reading
> a book, visiting a friend, doing something athletic, etc.
>
> 9. Make a pocket calendar for a month on a small card. Carry
> it with you, but show it to no one. If you have a lapse
> of self control, color the day black. Your goal will be
> to have _no black days_. The calendar becomes a strong
> visual reminder of self control and should be looked at
> when you are tempted to add another black day. Keep your
> calendar up until you have at least three clear months.
>
> 10. A careful study will indicate you have had the problem at
> certain times and under certain conditions. Try and
> recall, in detail, what your particular times and
> conditions were. Now that you understand how it happens,
> plan to break the pattern through counter activities.
>
> 11. In the field of psychotherapy there is a very effective
> technique called _aversion therapy_. When we associate or
> think of something very distasteful with something which
> has been pleasurable, but undesirable, the distasteful
> thought and feeling will begin to cancel out that
> which was pleasurable. If you associate something very
> distasteful with your loss of self-control it will help
> you to stop the act. For example, if you are tempted to
> masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of worms,
> and eat several of them as you do the act.
>
> 12. During your toileting and shower activities leave the
> bathroom door or shower curtain partly open, to discourage
> being alone in total privacy. Take cool brief showers.
>
> 13. Arise immediately in the mornings. Do not lie in bed awake,
> no matter what time of day it is. Get up and do
> something. Start each day with an enthusiastic activity.
>
> 14. Keep your bladder empty. Refrain from drinking large
> amounts of fluids before retiring.
>
> 15. Reduce the amount of spices and condiments in your
> food. Eat as lightly as possible at night.
>
> 16. Wear pajamas that are difficult to open, yet loose and
> not binding.
>
> 17. Avoid people, situations, pictures or reading materials
> that might create sexual excitement.
>
> 18. It is sometimes helpful to have a physical object to use
> in overcoming this problem. A Book of Mormon, firmly
> held in hand, even in bed at night has proven helpful in
> extreme cases.
>
> 19. In very severe cases it may be necessary to tie a hand to
> the bed frame with a tie in order that the habit of
> masturbating in a semi-sleep condition can be broken.
> This can also be accomplished by wearing several layers
> of clothing which would be difficult to remove while
> half asleep.
>
> 20. Set up a reward system for your successes. It does not
> have to be a big reward. A quarter in a receptacle each
> time you overcome or reach a goal. Spend it on something
> which delights you and will be a continuing reminder of
> your progress.
>
> 21. Do not let yourself return to any past habit or attitude
> patterns which were part of your problem. Satan Never
> Gives Up. Be calmly and confidently on guard. Keep a
> positive mental attitude. You can win this fight! The
> joy and strength you will feel when you do will give your
> whole life a radiant and spiritual glow of satisfaction
> and fulfillment.
>
>

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