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Put this in the archive under harman.dave

Too bad he can't practice what he preaches and can't stop masturbating to his
Black Tail collection.

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> REGAINING SELF-CONTROL - STEPS IN OVERCOMING MASTURBATION
> 
> Be assured that you can be cured of your difficulty.  Many have
> been, both male and female, and you can be also if you determine
> that it must be so.
> 
> This determination is the first step.  That is where we begin.
> You must decide that you will end this practice, and when you
> make that decision, the problem will be greatly reduced at once.
> 
> But it must be more than a hope or a wish, more than knowing
> that it is good for you.  It must be actually a DECISION. If
> you truly make up your mind that you will be cured, then you
> will have the strength to resist any tendencies which you may
> have and any temptations which may come to you.
> 
> After you have made this decision, then observe the following
> specific guidelines:
> 
> 1.   Never touch the intimate parts of your body except
>      during normal toilet processes.
> 
> 2.   Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company
>      and stay in this good company.
> 
> 3.   If you are associated with other persons having this
>      same problem, YOU MUST BREAK OFF THEIR FRIENDSHIP.  Never
>      associate with other people having the same weakness.
>      Don't suppose that two of you will quit together, you
>      never will.  You must get away from people of that kind.
>      Just to be in their presence will keep your problem
>      foremost in your mind.  The problem must be taken OUT OF
>      YOUR MIND for that is where it really exists.  Your mind
>      must be on other and more wholesome things.
> 
> 4.   When you bathe, do not admire yourself in a mirror. Never
>      stay in the bath more than five or six minutes -- just
>      long enough to bathe and dry and dress AND THEN GET OUT OF
>      THE BATHROOM into a room where you will have some member
>      of your family present.
> 
> 5.   When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for
>      the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely
>      that you cannot easily touch your vital parts, and so
>      that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to
>      remove those clothes.  By the time you started to remove
>      protective clothing you would have sufficiently controlled
>      your thinking that the temptation would leave you.
> 
> 6.   If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed,
>      GET OUT OF BED AND GO INTO THE KITCHEN AND FIX YOURSELF
>      A SNACK, even if it is in the middle of the night, and
>      even if you are not hungry, and despite your fears of
>      gaining weight.  The purpose behind this suggestion is
>      that you GET YOUR MIND ON SOMETHING ELSE.  You are the
>      subject of your thoughts, so to speak.
> 
> 7.   Never read pornographic material. Never read about your
>      problem.  Keep it out of mind.  Remember -- "First a
>      thought, then an act."  The thought pattern must be
>      changed.  You must not allow this problem to remain in
>      your mind.  When you accomplish that, you soon will be
>      free of the act.
> 
> 8.   Put wholesome thoughts into your mind at all times. Read
>      good books -- Church books -- Scriptures -- Sermons of
>      the Brethern.  Make a daily habit of reading at least one
>      chapter of Scripture, preferably from one of the four
>      Gospels in the New Testament, or the Book of Mormon.
>      The four Gospels -- Matthew, Mark, Luke and John --
>      above anything else in the Bible can be helpful because
>      of their uplifting qualities.
> 
> 9.   Pray. But when you pray, don't pray about this problem,
>      for that will tend to keep it in your mind more than ever.
>      Pray for faith, pray for understanding of the Scriptures,
>      pray for the Missionaries, the General Authorities, your
>      friends, your families, BUT KEEP THE PROBLEM OUT OF YOUR
>      MIND BY NOT MENTIONING IT EVER -- NOT IN CONVERSATION WITH
>      OTHERS, NOT IN YOUR PRAYERS.  KEEP IT _OUT_ of your mind!
> 
> The attitude of a person toward his problem has an affect on how
> easy it is to overcome.  It is essential that a firm commitment
> be made to control the habit.  As a person understands his
> reasons for the behavior, and is sensitive to the conditions or
> situations that may trigger a desire for the act, he develops
> the power to control it.
> 
> We are taught that our bodies are temples of God, and are
> to be clean so that the Holy Ghost may dwell within us.
> Masturbation is a sinful habit that robs one of the Spirit
> and creates guilt and emotional stress.  It is a habit that is
> totally self-centered, and secretive, and in no way expresses
> the proper use of the procreative power given to man to fulfill
> eternal purposes.  It therefore separates a person from God
> and defeats the gospel plan.
> 
> This self-gratifying activity will cause one to lose his
> self-respect testimony becomes weak, and missionary work and
> other Church callings become burdensome offerings.
> 
> To help in planning an effective program to overcome the
> problem a brief discription is given of how the reproductive
> organs in a young man function.
> 
> The testes in your body are continually producing hundreds of
> millions of reproductive cells call spermatozoa.  These are
> moved up a tube called the vas deferens to a place called the
> ampulla where they are mixed with fluids from two membranous
> pouches called seminal vesicles and the prostate gland.
> The resultant fluid when the seminal vesicles are full a signal
> is sent to the central nervous system indicating they are ready
> to be released, how often depending on such things as exercise,
> state of health, etc., occasionally or several times a week,
> for others.
> 
> It is normal for the vesicles to be emptied occasionally at
> night during sleep when called by the central nervous system.
> Often an erotic dream is experienced at the same time, and
> is a part of this normal process.  If, instead masturbating,
> the reproductive system is operating at a more rapid pace,
> trying to keep up with the loss of semen.  When he stops the
> habit, the body will continue to produce at his increased rate,
> for an indefese are not harmful and are to be endured until
> the normal central nervous system pathway of release.
> 
> As one meets with his Priesthood Leader, a program for
> overcoming masturbation can be implemented using some of the
> techniques mentioned above.  Remember it is essential that
> a regular report program be agreed on, so progress can be
> recognized and failures understood and eliminated.
> 
> Suggestions:
> 
> 1.   Pray daily, ask for the gifts of the Spirit, that which
>      will strengthen you against temptation.  Pray fervently
>      and not out loud when the temptations are the strongest.
> 
> 2.   Follow a program of vigorous daily exercise. The exercises
>      reduce emotional tension and depression and are absolutely
>      basic to the solution of this problem.  Double your
>      physical activity when you feel stress increasing.
> 
> 3.   When the temptation to masturbate is strong, yell _STOP_
>      to those thoughts as loudly as you can in your mind and
>      then recite a prechosen Scripture or sing an inspirational
>      hymn.  It is important to turn your thoughts away from
>      the selfish need to indulge.
> 
> 4.   Set goals of abstinence, begin with a day, then a week,
>      month, year and finally commit to never doing it again.
>      Until you commit yourself to _never again_ you will always
>      be open to temptation.
> 
> 5.   Change in behavior and attitude is most easily achieved
>      through a changed self-image.  Spend time every day
>      imagining yourself strong and in control, easily overcoming
>      tempting situations.
> 
> 6.   Begin to work daily on a self-improvement program. Relate
>      this plan to improving your Church service, to improving
>      your relationships with your family, God and others.
>      Strive to enhance your strengths and talents.
> 
> 7.   Be outgoing and friendly. Force yourself to be with others
>      and learn to enjoy working and talking to them.  Use
>      principles of developing friendships found in books such as
>      _How to Win Friends and Influence People_ by Dale Carnegie.
> 
> 8.   Be aware of situations that depress you or that cause
>      you to feel lonely, bored, frustrated or discouraged.
>      These emotional states can trigger the desire to masturbate
>      as a way of escape.  Plan in advance to counter these
>      low periods through various activities, such as reading
>      a book, visiting a friend, doing something athletic, etc.
> 
> 9.   Make a pocket calendar for a month on a small card. Carry
>      it with you, but show it to no one.  If you have a lapse
>      of self control, color the day black.  Your goal will be
>      to have _no black days_.   The calendar becomes a strong
>      visual reminder of self control and should be looked at
>      when you are tempted to add another black day.   Keep your
>      calendar up until you have at least three clear months.
> 
> 10.  A careful study will indicate you have had the problem at
>      certain times and under certain conditions.  Try and
>      recall, in detail, what your particular times and
>      conditions were.  Now that you understand how it happens,
>      plan to break the pattern through counter activities.
> 
> 11.  In the field of psychotherapy there is a very effective
>      technique called _aversion therapy_.  When we associate or
>      think of something very distasteful with something which
>      has been pleasurable, but undesirable, the distasteful
>      thought and feeling will begin to cancel out that
>      which was pleasurable.  If you associate something very
>      distasteful with your loss of self-control it will help
>      you to stop the act.  For example, if you are tempted to
>      masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of worms,
>      and eat several of them as you do the act.
> 
> 12.  During your toileting and shower activities leave the
>      bathroom door or shower curtain partly open, to discourage
>      being alone in total privacy.  Take cool brief showers.
> 
> 13.  Arise immediately in the mornings. Do not lie in bed awake,
>      no matter what time of day it is.  Get up and do
>      something. Start each day with an enthusiastic activity.
> 
> 14.  Keep your bladder empty. Refrain from drinking large
>      amounts of fluids before retiring.
> 
> 15.  Reduce the amount of spices and condiments in your
>      food. Eat as lightly as possible at night.
> 
> 16.  Wear pajamas that are difficult to open, yet loose and
>      not binding.
> 
> 17.  Avoid people, situations, pictures or reading materials
>      that might create sexual excitement.
> 
> 18.  It is sometimes helpful to have a physical object to use
>      in overcoming this problem.  A Book of Mormon, firmly
>      held in hand, even in bed at night has proven helpful in
>      extreme cases.
> 
> 19.  In very severe cases it may be necessary to tie a hand to
>      the bed frame with a tie in order that the habit of
>      masturbating in a semi-sleep condition can be broken.
>      This can also be accomplished by wearing several layers
>      of clothing which would be difficult to remove while
>      half asleep.
> 
> 20.  Set up a reward system for your successes. It does not
>      have to be a big reward.  A quarter in a receptacle each
>      time you overcome or reach a goal.  Spend it on something
>      which delights you and will be a continuing reminder of
>      your progress.
> 
> 21.  Do not let yourself return to any past habit or attitude
>      patterns which were part of your problem.  Satan Never
>      Gives Up.  Be calmly and confidently on guard. Keep a
>      positive mental attitude.  You can win this fight! The
>      joy and strength you will feel when you do will give your
>      whole life a radiant and spiritual glow of satisfaction
>      and fulfillment.
> 
> 


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